Results: Here's where we think you are
Feeling out of your depth
From what you've told us, you feel like you're struggling with your role as a caregiver. There are many reasons that people often end up caring for a loved one, even if it isn't entirely by choice.
For you, it seems taking care of your loved one is a source of stress and strain on your relationship. Consider if doing more than is necessary, or doing more than you can safely do, could be a factor.
The truth is, caregiving can be an emotionally and physically challenging job no matter what. But taking steps to find support and access help services can go a long way to keeping you as healthy as possible—good for you and your loved one.
Know that depression is common among caregivers, and some of your responses suggest you may be at risk. It's easy to ignore your own issues when you're focused on a loved one. Please don't. Taking care of yourself is good for you and those who need you.
Some resources to help you reign in your caregiving responsibilities
- Explore help services. Use this site's search tool to find adult day services, homemaker services, or chore services.
- Get advice from a pro. A counselor or family caregiver specialist can help you work through some of the issues that are most challenging to you, and find strategies and resources that can be of help.
- Talk to the doctor. Discuss your loved one's medical condition and ability level with his or her medical providers. Being clear about the person's needs, and the role you're able to play may help you to set more realistic expectations for you both.