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Running out of steam

From what you've told us, you seem generally comfortable with your role in caring for your loved one. That's great!

But it sounds like the stress of caregiving is really weighing down on you too. And juggling it all can put a strain on even the best relationships.

You said you might be considering assisted living for your loved one. Chances are you could use some support to help reassure you that you're doing a good job, or to help you work through feelings like anger and guilt that are common in your situation (you're not alone—we promise!).

Know that depression is common among caregivers, and some of your responses suggest you may be at risk. It's easy to ignore your own issues when you're focused on a loved one. Please don't. Taking care of yourself is good for you and those who need you. 

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Some resources to help you get the support you need

  1. Join a support group. Online or in-person, talking to other caregivers can help you to feel less alone in your struggles.
  2. Sign up for an educational program. Learning more about caregiving may help you feel more confident in your role and in the care you're providing. You can search for caregiver education and training via this site's search tool to find programs near you. Or visit your local library or community center. Powerful Tools is another helpful caregiver education program offered in many communities.
  3. Reach out to a counselor. Finding a space to talk about your own needs and feelings can be invaluable. Search for counseling services in your area. Or, if you're a Blue Cross member, you can use the Find a Doctor tool to find in-network counselors.
  4. Explore help services. Use this site's search tool to find adult day services, homemaker services, or chore services.